The best four sentences
Very magical power of language, a person may be because of one sentence and positive life, because a word may also lose their confidence. In life with their children speak, some words have to help him, some of the best if not to say that.
4 there is such a sentence, there is help for him
1. “… You to decide …”
If you let kids do anything, or you want to do anything to stop him, you can say that this is the case - “you come to decide it, … …” give him a clear understanding: I decide my own behavior, at the same time for my own actions. For instance, your child and his partners are at home to make mad, you can say to them: “This will affect the neighbors loudly rest, then you come to decide it, yes it is still quiet a bit to go play outside?” If They have chosen to go out playing, but 5 minutes later they are still the house screaming, you can then say: “you have already agreed to go outside the play is not it?” to do so, can the Church Choose a child to understand means to accept the consequences, but also allows parents always act as a constraint to avoid their bad police role. You chose, and it is responsible, and this is real freedom.
2. “I hate you, but I do not you enjoy this kind of behavior.”
To teach and restraint, for the children is always necessary. However, you must make him a bad conduct and his people to separate - this will make you and he understand that bad behavior does not mean to do this matter is the people “bad guys.” At the same time you discipline him told him: “I pointed out that what you are not good, not acceptable behavior, it is out of love, even though I do not enjoy such an act, but I hate you!” This same be able to give yourself a reminder, your aim is to correct and guide the child’s naive and ignorant, let him become more lovely and excellent, not just for a lesson or punishment. At the same time, this also can make you in the face of a child’s time, more placid calm and do not show low-quality would not achieve the role of the roar example.
3. “You know, different people will have their own different needs.”
When your child repeat the phrase in “It’s not fair!” When you need to do is not shouted or ignored him, but to patiently let him understand that such a truth: In fact, each person will not necessarily be the same treatment, and in such circumstances, “fairness” is actually the true meaning of “every person required at him when this thing get it.” So, what if you bought a gift to the relatives of the child, not to buy you a copy to their children in order to show that “fair” or “consolation.” Just imagine if the other kids sick, and your child are going to take medicine along with it?
4. “Tell me, you know the real mind!”
When your child has been angered at the time, is likely to break out of those terrible words: “You bastard!” Or “I hate you!” This is because their emotional and intense time can think of (or Imitation to) the most “hard” if the most gas. However, you as parents, you need to help your child a deeper understanding of some of their emotions - what angered him, let him feel angry (or are disturbed, wronged and so on), analysis of the whole truth to help him. Such as himself at a loss as to how clear the temporary setting, you can give him some help: “you are not happy with other people because she said you told her little secret?” According to truth, to help children master their own feelings, to teach him at this moment how to think, so that they can be calm and able to deal with good relations with others. In this way, the future in the absence of parents around, they can also learn to exercise restraint and to alleviate their own feelings of.